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Published April 2004 In dealing with annoying colleagues, be proactive Q. We work in a relatively small, tightly confined office setting. Up to a few months ago, everybody here seemed to get along. That’s when two of our co-workers, one a new hire, began their annoying behavior: the loud sharing of crude jokes, tossing small objects at one another from one cubicle to the next and other acts reminiscent of middle school miscreants. We’re divided on how to handle this. Should we ignore it, figuring they’ll never change, or confront it and risk polluting what’s left of the collegial atmosphere in the office? A. Sooner or later, no matter how great a workplace may be, someone starts to really bug us. Whenever their “little” annoyances boil our skin like a bee sting, we have a choice. Do nothing, saying “Oh, that’s just the way he is, he’ll never change,” and anyway “it’s not that big a deal, I guess.” But it is. You and your co-workers clearly are upset. Minor irritants, if allowed to fester, will become distracting, disruptive and destructive to you and the entire organization. By leaving difficult people alone, you are giving them carte blanche permission to continue and perhaps become even more annoying. You may also think that the costs of acting aren’t worth the potential gain. If the scoundrel is your boss, you could lose your job. You may fear getting the reputation of office buttinski by other co-workers. But reacting isn’t a matter of getting in their face and commanding them to stop. Instead, approach these people with a proactive response. Here are suggestions on how to deal with the three most common kinds of irritating people:
Remember, difficult people choose to be difficult and annoying. Stand up to them and say, “enough,” or suffer the consequences. That’s your choice. Eric Zoeckler operates The Scribe, a business writing service with many Snohomish County-based clients. He also writes a column on workplace issues that appears in The Herald on Mondays. He can be reached at 206-284-9566 or by e-mail to mrscribe@aol.com. |
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© 2004 The Daily Herald Co., Everett, WA |
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